OK, I don't really have anything substantial to write here, except that I'm just really excited that the Creative Director at Gorilla Soapbox, Ty Mabrey, just released the 100th episode of In the Den with Dr. Jenn where we highlight the most memorable moments in female sexual empowerment (and Ty did phenomenal editing work, as always). We've worked our asses off for two years to make this show something that we're really proud of and that we know is a valuable educational service to women, men, and couples.

Tomorrow morning I'll be live in the Fox 5 News studio to discuss my show, the celebration, and relationship tips to spice things up! AND I can't wait to celebrate Tuesday night for the Wine & Sex Social at Tango Wine!

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Relationship & Intimacy Doctor
100 Episodes of Female Sexual Empowerment
www.drjennsden.com

A friend recently told me about her agony in seeing an ex-boyfriend at a social event. He wants to be friends with her, since they broke up a few months ago. But seeing him makes her feel nauseous. She experiences pain and sorrow, and a yearning deep in her being for what was, or what could have been. She had to excuse herself to go to the restroom to cry.

Unfortunately I know this feeling all too well. And I know that it feels like the earth has been pulled out from under your feet.

She asked me what was wrong with her and why she couldn't just move on and be friends like him. She didn't know why she can't be around him and why it feels so painful. And she asked me whether it was immature of her to ask that they not have contact with each other and to not be his friend.

I told her I thought it was actually quite mature to be able to honor the depth of her emotions and allow herself the space to heal. Sometimes someone touches our heart so deeply that our pain is too intense for a casual relationship. It doesn't necessarily mean that this person is "the one," but it does mean that they moved us in ways we didn't think possible. I know women and men who expose themselves to such pain regularly, with a facade of acceptance for the break-up. At a deeper and unacknowledged level, though, they are still clinging to hope to be together again.

If this resonates with you, give yourself the space you need and honor your process. This doesn't mean wallow in sorrow, but to remove yourself from situations that pick at your wound, until it has time to heal. This can be done in a very mature way of requesting no contact from your former partner, while apologizing because you do not mean to hurt them by not being their friend right now. This can also help avoid building resentment for the other person, while you can build emotion stability and holistic balance.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Relationship & Intimacy Doctor
Female Sexual Empowerment
www.drjennsden.com

I've been wanting to offer Den merchandise since we started releasing In the Den with Dr. Jenn over two years ago...and now it's available!

Since the Den Store through Cafe Press just opened, the products are limited, but the offerings will be growing quickly. There are currently sexy women's t-shirts, men's masturbation t-shirts, clever mugs, and empowering bags.

Click on this link to visit Dr. Jenn's Den through Cafe Press.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Relationship & Intimacy Doctor
Holistic Healing for Healthy Sexuality & Happy Relationships
www.drjennsden.com